Arguing about doctrine

We argue so much about the fine points of doctrine, but the Bible says that " Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ." Eph. 4:16

What was Apostle Paul's instruction about controversial issues? Let me rephrase my question. What does the Bible say about controversial issues?

Titus 3:9-11

"But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless.

Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them.

You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned."

2 Tim. 2:23-27

"Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.

And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil..."

Can you just calm down and allow the Lord speak through you in LOVE? Arguments don't change people. God does. However, many times, you're most probably not even correct about the opinion you hold.

Trust me, as you grow spiritually, you'll learn that some things you held on to were not true at all.

Remember, strife and division are marks of spiritual immaturity.