MAKE UP and not BREAK UP
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Relationships, Friendships, Marriage.. These are all very important. This post was originally for married couples but then I decided to make it general such that it covers simple friendships and relationships too. It's actually a good one and I trust God for wisdom and understanding as you go through it. KEEP AN OPEN MIND.
As humans, we are different physically, socially, academically and even emotionally. Being in a relationship (simple friendships and acquaintances to courtships and marriages) means rubbing your differences with another but yet satisfactorily accepting these differences in another. However, there are times things get out of hand (we all live in a body) but the Bible has instructed us to "...Walk in the Spirit.." Gal. 5:16. Now, since the fruit of the Spirit is LOVE, we can rephrase that and thus read it as "...Walk in Love..."
From 1 Cor. 13:4-8, we have seen that Love is patient, kind, does not take account of the evil done to it, rejoices when right and truth prevails etc(read up the verse). So, when things get out of hand, WALK IN LOVE and HAVE THE MIND OF CHRIST.
I love my family and friends very dearly and if there is anything i hold so dearly to my heart are these people. But then, there are times their words and actions hurt me but this does not mean I have to cut off the friendship or family tie. Does it? No. On the other hand, I am very sure there are times my words and actions have also hurt them. When a sore develops on our elbow, we do not cut our arm off but yet carefully follow the doctor's medical prescription in order for the wound to heal, right? When a light bulb goes bad in our homes we do not move out of the house but change the light bulb, don't we? The same goes for our relationships. When there is a problem, we should work it out and not just cut the person off or end the relationship.
So, this post goes for people who have erred in this aspect.
PRAY for God's forgiveness for any wrong you had done that might have added to the problem. Let's say anger, malice, wrath etc. Anger turns to bitterness. Bitterness becomes a full-blown grudge. Eventually, we become unpleasant people. (Col. 3:13, Rom. 12:18)
FORGIVE your friend for whatever wrong was done against you. These are the reasons your should forgive your friend:
i) Christ forgave you of your sins and you should forgive another also. (Matt. 18:21-35)
ii) Dwell in the Light of God's word. 1 John 2:9 says, "He that says he is in the light and hates his brother, is in the darkness, even up till now."
iii)Jesus asked us to forgive one another (Luke 17:3-4)
iv)Well, a friend that is sorry for hurting you should be forgiven, don't you think so? No one has the right to judge another. (John 8:1-11)
v)Do I have to stress this enough? YOU MUST FORGIVE HIM/HER because he/she is your friend. Love covers all sins.
Sit with your friend and discuss about things you do not like. Apologize for any outburst of anger or malice. Pray together. Yes! Pray together (you can't? Then, ask yourself what sort of friendship that is.)
As humans, we all love to know what's in it for us to do something and I am sure you are looking out for the benefits in this (lol. You are a Christian. That's beneficial enough)
So, point of the whole post? Value your relationships and do not let any little misunderstanding spoil a great friendship. You may think that it was not your fault that you guys had a misunderstanding but (sorry to hear this) it is your fault that you guys did not reconcile.
Don't just read this and think to yourself :yea, nice one. Do what you have read! Love you!
Relationships, Friendships, Marriage.. These are all very important. This post was originally for married couples but then I decided to make it general such that it covers simple friendships and relationships too. It's actually a good one and I trust God for wisdom and understanding as you go through it. KEEP AN OPEN MIND.
As humans, we are different physically, socially, academically and even emotionally. Being in a relationship (simple friendships and acquaintances to courtships and marriages) means rubbing your differences with another but yet satisfactorily accepting these differences in another. However, there are times things get out of hand (we all live in a body) but the Bible has instructed us to "...Walk in the Spirit.." Gal. 5:16. Now, since the fruit of the Spirit is LOVE, we can rephrase that and thus read it as "...Walk in Love..."
From 1 Cor. 13:4-8, we have seen that Love is patient, kind, does not take account of the evil done to it, rejoices when right and truth prevails etc(read up the verse). So, when things get out of hand, WALK IN LOVE and HAVE THE MIND OF CHRIST.
I love my family and friends very dearly and if there is anything i hold so dearly to my heart are these people. But then, there are times their words and actions hurt me but this does not mean I have to cut off the friendship or family tie. Does it? No. On the other hand, I am very sure there are times my words and actions have also hurt them. When a sore develops on our elbow, we do not cut our arm off but yet carefully follow the doctor's medical prescription in order for the wound to heal, right? When a light bulb goes bad in our homes we do not move out of the house but change the light bulb, don't we? The same goes for our relationships. When there is a problem, we should work it out and not just cut the person off or end the relationship.
So, this post goes for people who have erred in this aspect.
PRAY for God's forgiveness for any wrong you had done that might have added to the problem. Let's say anger, malice, wrath etc. Anger turns to bitterness. Bitterness becomes a full-blown grudge. Eventually, we become unpleasant people. (Col. 3:13, Rom. 12:18)
FORGIVE your friend for whatever wrong was done against you. These are the reasons your should forgive your friend:
i) Christ forgave you of your sins and you should forgive another also. (Matt. 18:21-35)
ii) Dwell in the Light of God's word. 1 John 2:9 says, "He that says he is in the light and hates his brother, is in the darkness, even up till now."
iii)Jesus asked us to forgive one another (Luke 17:3-4)
iv)Well, a friend that is sorry for hurting you should be forgiven, don't you think so? No one has the right to judge another. (John 8:1-11)
v)Do I have to stress this enough? YOU MUST FORGIVE HIM/HER because he/she is your friend. Love covers all sins.
Sit with your friend and discuss about things you do not like. Apologize for any outburst of anger or malice. Pray together. Yes! Pray together (you can't? Then, ask yourself what sort of friendship that is.)
As humans, we all love to know what's in it for us to do something and I am sure you are looking out for the benefits in this (lol. You are a Christian. That's beneficial enough)
So, point of the whole post? Value your relationships and do not let any little misunderstanding spoil a great friendship. You may think that it was not your fault that you guys had a misunderstanding but (sorry to hear this) it is your fault that you guys did not reconcile.
Don't just read this and think to yourself :yea, nice one. Do what you have read! Love you!
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